While I was working in a large law firm, I felt like was in a zombie movie trying to look like the walking dead so they wouldn’t eat me. I went to the parties, luxury retreats, and happy hours. I took the glass of Kool-Aid—so at least I’d look like them—but I never drank it. When they weren’t looking, I was always looking for a way out. Playing that game was exhausting.
Later, when I was in another career and much happier, it was tempting to beat myself up. Yet, I reminded myself that I was doing the best I could at that time in my life. That’s what we are all doing. When the shoulda, coulda, wouldas start, always try to find compassion for yourself. If you get stuck on how things should be, you are not present with your life as it is now. If you are busy beating yourself up for what you didn’t do or say back then, then you are missing opportunities to change your life here and now.
What could you accomplish if you could stop shoulding yourself to death and start caring for yourself, and living right here…right now? (more…)